Thursday, May 06, 2010

honestly...

all this talk of moms and mother's day has got me feeling weird. i am not technically a mom, and the sort of mom i'm going to end up being isn't really very june cleaver-y. if i'd just gotten pregnant and had kids, though, would i have been an ordinary mom? is there really any such thing?

sometimes i'm sad that i didn't become a mom in a normal, getting-pregnant-having-a-baby kind of way. other days, i love the kids enough that i forget i didn't grow them myself. they both refer to me as a "parent" and that's pretty fucking awesome for a girl who was seriously plotting her crazy cat lady phase.

i guess when it comes right down to it, i love them and they love me and who cares if i'm not a MOM-mom. i'm okay. they're okay. we have a home we're all happy to come back to, and dinner is our favorite part of the day. whatever is going on, it works. i need to stop over thinking it and just relax. i forget that no one gets to pick their kids, and no one gets to pick their mom. we're not a normal family, but whatever we are, i'm thrilled with. yeah, i'm not a mom-mom, i never grew a baby inside me, and the kids have a bio-mom out there somewhere, but the kids are awesome and well-adjusted, so i'm going to count that as a success.

4 comments:

Lisa said...

Being an adult adoptee who is married to an adult adoptee who adopted and has one of my own, I can tell you, Family is who you decide it is.

I'm glad you're happy with it; kids can be the greatest thing ever; there are moments that they just make your heart sing.

Rachel said...

Ah, but the fact that you're even thinking about it means you ARE a Mom-mom--Even if you didn't get pregnant & have a kid (which is not for everyone).

Anne said...

None of us is totally the "mom" we thought we'd be.

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