i know, i'm too old to indulge in adolescent musical interludes but this song reminds me of a boy i was smitten with at 20, and still miss today. not because we would have ever grown up and gotten married or had kids or been anything but childhood sweethearts; but because he was a nice boy. not my boy, but a sweet, kind boy who knew that i wasn't the marrying-kid-having type. we actually argued about that sort of thing, and i recall being annoyed he thought that i wasn't ready to settle down. he was right, and i was wrong about what i wanted and when i wanted it, which in the end was exactly what i needed.
i wasn't supposed to get married at 22 and have kids. my kids were already around, waiting for me to show up. i couldn't love them more if i had made them with my own body. i hear albums like this one, and remember what i though my life was going to be, and am happy i was wrong.
*what makes me think of him is that my parents really loved him; they were his parents in a way. i have moments where i remember we all went out, hand in hand, and they loved him, knowing we wouldn't grow up and get married. it's a testament to how great my parents were that they loved him regardless, and how i learned about love with all of them. is that weird? knowing even then that what i wanted wasn't the best for me, wasn't what was in store, and still playing along. he remains a good man, someone's happy partner, just not mine.
what makes me think about all of this is knowing if my dad had known D at all, in any way, he would have been happy. he would have liked him, they would have gotten along, and they both would have rolled their eyes at my more insane tendencies. my dad loved the boy i grew up with, but he would have loved D more. i wish they had known each other. it feels unfair that he knew the boy i wouldn't grow up to marry, and not the man i love so much.